Differences Between The Guy Who’s Ready To Settle Down And The Guy Who Just Wants To Have Fun

Saturday, August 29, 2015

Once you’re in your twenties, you’re constantly going to come across guys who are ready to settle down and guys who just want to have fun. One type of guy is not better than the other. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to just have fun, and there’s nothing wrong with being ready for commitment. The problem comes when you’re feeling one way and you choose to be with a guy who’s on a completely different page than you are. Here are 18 ways to help you distinguish guys who are ready to commit versus guys who aren’t looking for anything serious right now.
1. The guy who’s ready to settle down will talk about the future with you without hesitation. Not in
an aggressive, clingy way, but in a way that shows you he’s not afraid to admit he is thinking long-term. The guy who just wants to have fun tries to avoid any conversations near the topic of the future in any way possible.
2. The guy who’s ready to settle down will make plans with you for a trip next year. The guy who just wants to have fun will make plans with you for this Friday.
3. The guy who’s ready to settle down will tell you that some of his favorite things about you are unique quirks and aspects of your personality or your appearance that you’ve never even noticed before. The guy who just wants to have fun will tell you that you are awesome and fun and a really cool girl.
4. The guy who’s ready to settle down wants to hang out with you on a Sunday afternoon. The guy who just wants to have fun will try to meet up with you on Friday night when he’s at the bar.
5. The guy who’s ready to settle down wants to meet your parents and your friends and introduce you to his. The guy who just wants to have fun will occasionally encounter your friends or have you encounter his, but usually it’s more by accident.
6. The guy who’s ready to settle down shares his Netflix password with you. The guy who just wants to have fun is not ready to take that step in your relationship right now.
7. The guy who’s ready to settle down remembers all the little tiny details about you and your life that you mention to him. The guy who just wants to have fun sometimes has a hard time remembering how many siblings you have or what you majored in in college.
8. The guy who’s ready to settle down feels comfortable talking to you when he’s had a bad day or something’s on his mind. The guy who just wants to have fun usually avoids those discussions and tries to not worry about it for as long as he can.
9. The guy who’s ready to settle down is perfectly happy to spend a Friday night hanging out with you in your pajamas on the couch. The guy who just wants to have fun will get pretty restless if you guys aren’t always up and about, going to a bar or heading to a party.
10. The guy who’s ready to settle down will talk to his friends about you and what his plans are. The guy who just wants to have fun usually gives his friends minimal details about his dating life and who he’s currently seeing.
11. The guy who’s ready to settle down will just call you his girlfriend one day without giving it a second thought. The guy who just wants to have fun tells you he just wants to keep things casual.
12. The guy who’s ready to settle down feels solid about where he is in his career and his life, even if he knows he has a long way to go. The guy who just wants to have fun is living in more of a day-to-day world right now.
13. The guy who’s ready to settle down calls you when he wants to see you, texts you when he’s thinking about you. The guy who just wants to have fun feels a little more guarded when it comes to communicating and hanging out.
14. The guy who’s ready to settle down has heard about your baggage and doesn’t care. The guy who just wants to have fun has no clue whether or not you have any baggage because you guys don’t talk about that stuff.
15. The guy who’s ready to settle down has made a sincere effort to have more of an adult lifestyle – learning how to cook, working on his apartment, regularly doing laundry. The guy who just wants to have fun is more of a “let’s hang out on the makeshift sofa and order a pizza” kind of guy.
16. The guy who’s ready to settle down knows how to balance time between you and his friends. The guy who just wants to have fun is more about hanging out with his buddies and trying to see you when he has time, usually on the weekends.
17. The guy who’s ready to settle down is tired of the same old late-night bar scene. The guy who just wants to have fun can’t get enough of it.
18. The guy who’s ready to settle down is not afraid to be vulnerable around you. The guy who just wants to have fun feels way more comfortable being silly and fun with you and nothing more.

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How to Avoid a Breakup in Any Relationship

Wednesday, August 26, 2015

 At the beginning of a relationship, everything seems all nice and rosy.
However, you see yourselves slowly become that couple: the one that bickers and makes snide remarks behind each others' backs.
In fact, you are probably at the edge, just about to break up or get a divorce or seperate.
Thankfully, all hope is not loss as some relationship experts have shared some of the biggest mistakes people in unhappy relationships make and how to correct if you've made them.
Constant comparison:
An unhappy couple find themselves constantly comparing their behavior now to their behavior when they dated. Anne Crowley, an Austin, Texas-based psychologist says, "a spouse in an unhappy marriage might complain ‘you used to be so romantic! Unfortunately, the other partner's response is often a defensive one -- 'Hey, that was before we had three kids!" The solution to constant comparison is to find out what happens when you tell your spouse you miss him or her. Anne says, "oftentimes it is intimacy that we are seeking with our spouse and anger only serves to push him or her away. Communication is the bridge to intimacy. When we feel connected with our spouse, we feel loved and valued."
Being passively aggressive:
According to Marina Sbrochi, a relationship expert and the author of Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life, passive aggression can lead to divorce. "If your partner models contemptuous behavior, you'll most likely pick up that vibe and escalate the issue," she said. "You'll both walk away silently cursing each other." Her advice, get smarter with your argument style. "The next time you argue, take note of how one person's attitude is contagious," she said. "Instead of matching attitude, stop the bad-attitude train. Listen respectively and try to figure out what exactly your partner is trying to say to you." 
Having the final say:
Being a relationship with someone who has to be right all the time or have the final say every time is very exhausting, however, this should not lead to  break up. LiYana Silver, a San Francisco-based relationship expert and coach explains this attitude saying, "they try to get the other person to submit by shaming them, bullying them, out-smarting them or shutting them out," she said. "If you're a partner who constantly needs to be right, ask yourself: 'What's so important to my S.O. about this issue? What about it am I not seeing?' This will shift the dynamic from adversarial to allied -- and genuine curiosity in a relationship is disarming and heart-opening. It will put you back on the same team."
Spending too much with your phone:
A lot of us are guilty of this, though it may seem harmless, the consequences are harmful to your relationship. Psychologist Alicia H. Clark says doing it often sends a powerful non-verbal message to your S.O.: Whatever I'm doing on my phone is far more important than you.  She suggests turning off, muting or putting your phone out of reach at dinner. "This allows your partner your full attention and sends the nonverbal message that time together is important.
Letting your relationship go/become stale:
In order to prevent yourselves from being an unhappy couple, you have to make effort to share new and exciting experiences. Alicia says, "too much passive disconnected activity -- watching TV, surfing Internet, reading -- can erode a sense of connection and lure couples into a cycle of disengagement. Her suggestion is to try something new together, or schedule date nights again. "Novelty has been shown to boost relationship connection via the reward circuitry in our brain that stimulates feelings of pleasure, desire and motivation," she explains.
Losing sight of your partnership:
Anne says, "life changes when we marry or get serious. Maybe the wife’s focus is the children and the husband feels left out or the husband works long, late hours and the wife feels alone. We start to go through the motions and we don’t feel bonded or connected anymore." She recommends appreciating your spouse. "Tell and show you care. Pause for a moment when your partner comes home to welcome and embrace him or her. Be affectionate. It helps forge connection and closeness.  It's a reminder that he or she is your one and only."
No touching:
Alicia says to never underestimate the power of touch, even those as simple as playful pinches on the bum and hand-holding in public. "Human touch is a cornerstone of bonding and has been shown to drive up oxytocin -- dubbed the cuddle hormone -- that in turn facilitates attachment," she explained. "If you're in a relationship, make sure to do the little things: kiss each other when you say goodbye, hug more frequently or just hold hands while driving or watching TV. It will make a difference."

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5 Reasons Men Fall In Love With Good Girls

Men, take note. We all have a list of things that annoy us about the opposite sex. Here are a few common things that men do that women really hate.

 1. Send one word or one letter texts.
Nobody likes to receive a one word text message, but here’s why it’ll actually get men into trouble: When a woman sends a “k,” she’s actually sending a “whatever, asshole.” When a man sends a “k,” he’s actually sending a “k.” Unfortunately, women interpret this message the same way they would interpret their own vague response: as a passive-aggressive retort. So the woman on the other side of that conversation is bound to respond by either worrying that something is wrong, or hitting you with a moody, passive-aggressive attitude. Neither of those responses is good for you.

2. Double text (or more).
Give us time to respond, guys. Don’t get too aggressive. There’s a pretty good chance that if we don’t
respond immediately, it’s because we’re busy. Getting a follow-up “Oh. . .” or, “So, I guess you’re busy?” half an hour after you’ve initially texted us is a huge turn-off. If you’re talking to someone you’ve already gotten to know well, they’re probably just waiting for a chance to respond. If you’re talking to someone new and she’s consistently slow at responding (or forgets to respond completely), take it as a sign that she isn’t interested and give up. It’s better not to text at all and maintain your dignity than it is to double text.

3. Tell us to calm down.
Telling a woman to calm down is one of the most effective ways to make us even more bitchy and emotional. If your girlfriend is an emotional wreck, ask her what you can do to help. Believe me, it’s a much better move.
4. Ask a woman how she could possibly still be single.
I know that men probably mean for this question to be complimentary, but it’s really just awkward. Asking a woman why she’s single is bound to give her immediate flashbacks to past relationships and put her in a terrible mood. At best, asking a woman why she’s single will prompt her to tell you all of the things she hates about herself. She’ll sound insecure and you’ll immediately wonder why you opened your mouth.

5. Talk about exes.
Talking about your ex is always a bad move. It doesn’t matter if you’re talking about all of the great things she did or all of the horrible things she did, no woman wants to feel like she’s being compared to someone you were with in the past. The fact that you’re talking about your ex at all let’s us know that you’re thinking about her, and many women will wonder if that means you’re still holding on to some feelings. Tell us what you like about us. Hell, tell us about the things we do that get on your nerves. Just don’t talk about her.
Of course, this list is by no means all-inclusive. Evidently, there are hundreds of little things men do that annoy women. I asked a sample of 20-somethings for some input, and came up with a few honorable mentions…
Do not:

    Like your own Instagram photos
    Take selfies
    Ask for nudes
    Talk about how cute your girlfriend’s friends are—WE KNOW
    Act rude toward your girlfriend’s friends
    Act like a baby when you’re sick
    Bring your own bowling ball to the bowling alley

I can’t imagine that last one happens very often, but I have to agree. That’s kind of douchey. Don’t do that.
I can only hope this information will help you as you navigate your way through the frustrating and confusing world of dating, guys. As always, I wish you the best.

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Governors Climbing Chair to Snap with the Man from Moon

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Just wondering what is special with taken picture with Ban Ki-Moon that these Governors had to squeeze themselves and some even climbing on top of Chairs, Desks

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Beautiful Rukky Sanda releases photos on her birthday yesterday

Monday, August 24, 2015

The actress who is a year older today August 23rd, shared more photos from her shoot & a look at her celebratory cakes... More photos after the cut..

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2015 General Elections Must Hold –– Speaker Tambuwal Warns

Friday, September 19, 2014

Speaker, House of Reps, Aminu Waziri Tambuwal, has insisted that Nigeria’s general elections must hold in 2015 despite fears in some quarters over the possibility of conducting peaceful elections amidst the insurgency in the country’s north east.

Tambuwal’s statement comes on the heels of controversies generated by the “election is not on the table now” statement credited to Senate President David Mark.
“I firmly believe we can go into elections in 2015; elections in 2015 should be held.What we need to do is to address insurgency before the elections and encourage soldiers to do the needful,” Tambuwal stated at a meeting with a delegation of the Nigerian Bar Association (NBA) at the National Assembly.
Section 180(3) of the 1999 Constitution says if the country is at war, there will not be elections. Many have called for a declaration of war on Boko Haram to check the sect in the North East.

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Popular mysterious twin, known as ‘Ibeji Oran’ in Yoruba genre of Nollywood is dead

Thursday, September 18, 2014

There is an unconfirmed report that one of the twins is dead. Taiwo and Kehinde Osuolale, the popular mysterious twins, known as ‘Ibeji Oran’ in Yoruba genre of Nollywood, Yoruba Movie Gist reported

The specific one who died among the twins is yet to be ascertained as at press time
The mysterious twins who shot themselves into limelight several years back when they featured in the late Yekini Ajileye’s movie and thereafter became instant celebrities.

The physically challenged twins often called “Ibeji Oran” (Mysterious Twins), we learnt, passed away in his home town in Osogbo, Osun State.

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Runs Babe Caught With A Mad Man; She Confesses that is a Popular trend Now

Everyday we hear strange news.The world is truly coming to an end. How can a beautiful lady be involve with a mad man just because of money.

A Runs girl was caught recently sleeping with a mad man, she was caught at night by some vigilantee group, she confess that girls now sleep with mad men so that they can get customer and also they keep coming to them, she also said that they make little money from the business.

According to what we gathered the lady delivers 65 percentage of the money she earn to her big mummy i.e her boss. Strange things are happening in this world.

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